Motherhood is a gift. But like any endeavor worth tackling, it is not without its challenges. Motherhood can be stressful, exhausting, and lonely – if you are divorced or widowed it is even more so. Having a support system in place is crucial.
In this digital age, it is hard to feel good about ourselves. We look at social media, and we see pictures of pretty women, beautiful families, happy couples and thriving children, and we feel like we don't measure up – we're not good enough, attractive enough, thin enough, or successful enough. But my guess is that if you were in the inner circle of the mothers you admire on social media, you would find out that they are not so different from you. They have insecurities, imperfections, and bad days. They lose their tempers sometimes, or eat a whole bag of potato chips, or have a broken child that they don't know how to fix. They fight with their husbands, cry, and have days when they want to hide from the world. We all do. That's why we need each other, and that's why we need honesty – so none of us feels like a failure because we know that none of us is perfect, or looks perfect, or behaves perfectly all of the time. No one has a perfect life, a perfect marriage or perfect kids – we are all just doing the best we can to manage imperfection.
Luckily, life doesn't have to be perfect to be fantastic, and we don't have to be perfect to be great mothers or great women.
So here's to all the mamas out there, who go grocery shopping with no makeup on, who occasionally lock themselves in the bathroom for a good cry, who accidentally cuss in front of their kids, who eat half the cookies that they bake, or who are hanging on by a thread.
You are not alone, but you are beautiful, powerful and magnificent just as you are. Your tiny people don't need perfect; they just need your relentless love and support. And even on our worst days, we moms always have plenty of that to give!
So, dear mama, carry on in your glorious imperfection. It’s motherhood – come as you are! It is supposed to be messy and exhausting. No one said it was going to be easy, but it is always worth it.
However you came to be a mother, whatever stage of motherhood you are in, and whether you are single or married, Happy Mother's Day, ladies! I admire you, and I'm honored to be in your company.
All my best,